Think about it for a second. What does a resume do? It contains words and data about your past so that someone can identify what you’re made of. Your resume is a representation of your ingredients.
You are more than just your ingredients. I hope you already know that.
Here’s the thing, a can of beans is more than its ingredients too. There are the labeling and packaging, the price, your experience with beans, and most importantly, the taste. …
“Well, that’s super boring.”
Raise your hand if I’ve said that to you about you. If you could see my network of brilliant friends, my guess is you’d see several hands sheepishly raise. Why? Because when I ask them what they want to teach others about their Future-selves, they often start with something like, “Well, I want them to know that I’m a team player, I’m great at solving complex problems, and I’m a strategic thinker.”
Let me guess. You would want people to know that about you too. Guess what, everyone does. It’s why this particular answer is boring…
I’ve always thought it was weird that when the bell completed the midnight hour’s toll, all the magic surrounding Cinderella vanished except for the shoe.
Why is that? And frankly, as a bit of a shoe connoisseur, I’m not sure I would have left it on the stairs. I would have reached down and swiped up the sparkle and kept on my merry way. Seriously, we’re not talking about some $5 flip flop you bought at the beach one summer; we’re talking Louboutin type fabulousness.
The whole situation seems incredibly suspect. …
When I’m working with someone on how to talk about the Future You, I get excited when I hear contradictions in what they’re sharing about why they’re uniquely awesome. Why?
You are not your labels. You’re FAR more interesting than that. Pick any descriptive word, and you’re also (even if it’s just a little) the opposite. I’m both magical and practical. I’m both predictable and experimental.
Did you also see what…
Somewhere along the way, I’m guessing you’ve seen one of my famous live transformations. I’m known for taking how someone talks about themself from boring to brilliant in a matter of moments. It’s fun for the person because they get to hear how great they are from someone else’s perspective, and it’s fun for me because I get to tell someone how awesome they are.
The lesson in this exercise is simple. When you engage with someone, you’re teaching the other person who you are. And if you’re engaging with someone, I’m guessing you’re hoping to do something with them…
If all the tales are true, Fairy Godmothers make all your wishes come true.
Except isn’t it also true that often when our wishes come true, they don’t turn out quite as expected?
Here’s a lovely line in Stephen Sondheim’s musical Into the Woods where Cinderella’s mother, the wish-come-true-maker in this version, sings the following:
Do you know what you wish?
Are you certain what you wish is what you want?
If you know what you want, then make a wish.
Ask the tree, and you shall have your wish.
We’re all too familiar with Cinderella’s wish. She wants to…
Yesterday I spent a glorious day with a group of women who’ve been part of my brain trust for years. I’d say that the pandemic has kept us apart most of this year. Still, in reality, all of these women have a seat at the executive table at their respective companies and are involved in numerous other initiatives. On a typical day, they’re all ridiculously busy, and finding a day we can all hang out is frankly a miracle.
We covered dozens of topics during our day together, ranging from ageism in the workplace (then all the isms) to running…
Yes, you, and, for that matter, so is everyone else. Every person you interact with today is promoting themselves to you and you to them.
Do this little thought exercise for a second…
Think about the last conversation you had with someone. Now answer the following questions:
Intentionally or not, we teach each other who we are and what we’re all about in every conversation. What you’re teaching people is your brand.
While I’m obsessed with how we should all have a better…
Here’s what I hear when someone asks me if they can “pick my brain”.
Blech. It’s why I intensely dislike the phrase. It reeks of selfishness, laziness and completely lacks any sense of generosity.
Am I the only one? I don’t think so.
Here’s the other issue I have with this phrase. I think the people asking its intention isn’t to be selfish, lazy, or greedy. When I’ve pointed it out the “brand of you”…
“How can I help you?”
It’s the first question I ask when I’m working with someone. I need to know what you want to manifest in your future. Why? Because I’m the Fairy Godmother, it’s my job to help you make it easy for people to say YES to the Future You.
Think about it for a second. Cinderella’s future self wanted to dance with the Prince at the ball. The whole shoe-on-foot, ride off into the sunset, and “live happily ever after” goal was not part of the original plan.
The ask was simply, “Get me to the ball.”