Here’s what I hear when someone asks me if they can “pick my brain”.

  1. I want a cheat code to complete a project.
  2. I only wish to hear about the good bits.
  3. It’s all about me and my needs.

Blech. It’s why I intensely dislike the phrase. It reeks of selfishness, laziness and completely lacks any sense of generosity.

Am I the only one? I don’t think so.

Here’s the other issue I have with this phrase. I think the people asking its intention isn’t to be selfish, lazy, or greedy. When I’ve pointed it out the “brand of you”…

“How can I help you?”

It’s the first question I ask when I’m working with someone. I need to know what you want to manifest in your future. Why? Because I’m the Fairy Godmother, it’s my job to help you make it easy for people to say YES to the Future You.

Think about it for a second. Cinderella’s future self wanted to dance with the Prince at the ball. The whole shoe-on-foot, ride off into the sunset, and “live happily ever after” goal was not part of the original plan.

The ask was simply, “Get me to the ball.”

“Can you help me with negotiating my salary?”

The short answer is yes. It’s my job to help others understand the value of adding you to their team, and specifically you. It’s not just my job; it’s what I am called to do. There is nothing that makes me happier than hearing that an individual has not only landed a role that excites them, but they’re getting paid well.

I am actively ambitious for you and your preferable future.

I also believe that “revenue is oxygen” (thanks Tim Westergren for this gem); it gives you the freedom to do what…

Let me back up a second for those of you that don’t know what an RFP is. It’s a “Request For Proposal.” Very simple, Company A has a problem they want to outsource to another organization. An RFP can cover anything from building a highway infrastructure to marketing their product. The document is a high-level summary of the following:

  • What “Company A” wants from potential “Company B.”
    - Scope of the project
    - Specifics around requirements
    - Expectations for completion
  • That they’re looking and the process is competitive.
  • Defines the requirements for how and what to submit to be part…

You’ve already heard me lose my mind a dozen times about resumes. They’re terrible and are a poor representation of your value. The problem is, job descriptions are just as bad.

Now I’ll also own that I’m a tad biased. The last time I applied for was qualified for and got the job posted was 1992. As a hiring manager, writing job descriptions was a chore. I’ve asked dozens of you what you think of job descriptions, and it seems everyone sighs and shakes their head. Like a resume, they don’t represent the whole person you’re looking for — that…

I spend at least an hour every day in the hills behind my house, hiking and listening to podcasts. It’s exercise and R&D time all rolled into one.

During the interview with Reed Hastings of Netflix on the This Is Working podcast, Reed casually mentioned the idea of an “organizational blind pass.” My ears perked up. Now I’ve gone back and used my friend Google to check and see if I was just woefully ignorant of an organizational construct. I didn’t find a thing. Such a shame because I LOVE this idea. This idea sings to the very core of…

I learned this week that video game creators created cheat codes to test their games before pushing to production. I may be one of the last people to understand why they existed, but now the logic of cheat codes totally makes sense.

In my mind using cheat codes meant you didn’t truly learn how to play the game. Any athlete or artist will tell you that it’s in the hours and hours of practice that raw talent evolves into a gift. Gifts that often pay dividends in the most crucial moments. Moments that to others might look like luck.


The clearer you are about who you are, how you can add value to someone, and how to make that easy for them to choose you, the more likely someone is going to say yes to the Future You.

It’s that simple.

The additional benefit to this type of thinking is that when someone does say, “Yes, let’s do something together.” they’re choosing you just the way you are.

Man or women, I don’t think it matters. We ALL want our own “Mark Darcy moment,” where someone says, “I like you, just the way you are.” And I’m not just…

I’ve been ranting for a while that resumes no longer serve either the candidate or the hiring manager. My current narrative is that,

“A resume is about as useful as a nutrition label on a can of beans.”

Really, for something that the average hiring manager spends eight seconds reading, and that’s if it makes it to the manager’s desk, are they worth the effort? The consensus tells me no. You all then turn to me and ask, “So if not a resume, then what?” The short answer? I don’t know yet. But I’m on a bit of a mission…

I have a question. Which is more important to you when it comes to your job?

  1. Your ability to grow in your role.
  2. Your need to feel accomplished in the work you do.

Before you tell me both immediately, I want to unpack what I think growth and accomplishment mean.

We grow in our roles when we’re learning new things, stretching our minds, and dancing on the edge of our current capabilities. We grow when we have room to fail and adjust when we garner insights we haven’t had before. Growth is change.

We feel accomplished in our roles when…

Joanna Bloor

What do you do? Does your answer to that question inspire and engage? I think it should. Belief Agent for You. | TED Speaker

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