When I’m working with someone on how to talk about the Future You, I get excited when I hear contradictions in what they’re sharing about why they’re uniquely awesome. Why?
You are not your labels. You’re FAR more interesting than that. Pick any descriptive word, and you’re also (even if it’s just a little) the opposite. I’m both magical and practical. I’m both predictable and experimental.
Did you also see what…
Somewhere along the way, I’m guessing you’ve seen one of my famous live transformations. I’m known for taking how someone talks about themself from boring to brilliant in a matter of moments. It’s fun for the person because they get to hear how great they are from someone else’s perspective, and it’s fun for me because I get to tell someone how awesome they are.
The lesson in this exercise is simple. When you engage with someone, you’re teaching the other person who you are. And if you’re engaging with someone, I’m guessing you’re hoping to do something with them…
If all the tales are true, Fairy Godmothers make all your wishes come true.
Except isn’t it also true that often when our wishes come true, they don’t turn out quite as expected?
Here’s a lovely line in Stephen Sondheim’s musical Into the Woods where Cinderella’s mother, the wish-come-true-maker in this version, sings the following:
Do you know what you wish?
Are you certain what you wish is what you want?
If you know what you want, then make a wish.
Ask the tree, and you shall have your wish.
We’re all too familiar with Cinderella’s wish. She wants to…
Yesterday I spent a glorious day with a group of women who’ve been part of my brain trust for years. I’d say that the pandemic has kept us apart most of this year. Still, in reality, all of these women have a seat at the executive table at their respective companies and are involved in numerous other initiatives. On a typical day, they’re all ridiculously busy, and finding a day we can all hang out is frankly a miracle.
We covered dozens of topics during our day together, ranging from ageism in the workplace (then all the isms) to running…
Yes, you, and, for that matter, so is everyone else. Every person you interact with today is promoting themselves to you and you to them.
Do this little thought exercise for a second…
Think about the last conversation you had with someone. Now answer the following questions:
Intentionally or not, we teach each other who we are and what we’re all about in every conversation. What you’re teaching people is your brand.
While I’m obsessed with how we should all have a better…
Here’s what I hear when someone asks me if they can “pick my brain”.
Blech. It’s why I intensely dislike the phrase. It reeks of selfishness, laziness and completely lacks any sense of generosity.
Am I the only one? I don’t think so.
Here’s the other issue I have with this phrase. I think the people asking its intention isn’t to be selfish, lazy, or greedy. When I’ve pointed it out the “brand of you”…
“How can I help you?”
It’s the first question I ask when I’m working with someone. I need to know what you want to manifest in your future. Why? Because I’m the Fairy Godmother, it’s my job to help you make it easy for people to say YES to the Future You.
Think about it for a second. Cinderella’s future self wanted to dance with the Prince at the ball. The whole shoe-on-foot, ride off into the sunset, and “live happily ever after” goal was not part of the original plan.
The ask was simply, “Get me to the ball.”
“Can you help me with negotiating my salary?”
The short answer is yes. It’s my job to help others understand the value of adding you to their team, and specifically you. It’s not just my job; it’s what I am called to do. There is nothing that makes me happier than hearing that an individual has not only landed a role that excites them, but they’re getting paid well.
I am actively ambitious for you and your preferable future.
I also believe that “revenue is oxygen” (thanks Tim Westergren for this gem); it gives you the freedom to do what…
Let me back up a second for those of you that don’t know what an RFP is. It’s a “Request For Proposal.” Very simple, Company A has a problem they want to outsource to another organization. An RFP can cover anything from building a highway infrastructure to marketing their product. The document is a high-level summary of the following:
You’ve already heard me lose my mind a dozen times about resumes. They’re terrible and are a poor representation of your value. The problem is, job descriptions are just as bad.
Now I’ll also own that I’m a tad biased. The last time I applied for was qualified for and got the job posted was 1992. As a hiring manager, writing job descriptions was a chore. I’ve asked dozens of you what you think of job descriptions, and it seems everyone sighs and shakes their head. Like a resume, they don’t represent the whole person you’re looking for — that…